Relationships are not easy.  In fact, finding a good relationship when you are single can be down right hard.  Holding on to a good relationship after you are married can be even harder.  Sometimes to see if we are compatible with someone we’ll do almost anything for that information.  Even if that means spending a mountain of time taking relationship quizzes or finding a pyschic to fortell our future with potential mr. or mrs. right.

I think I figured something out in my five years of marriage and that is, while I have had a few love relationships in my single woman years, the one I am in right now… is a good relationship.  It is a relationship that I truly want to work at to be in for the rest of my life.

Husb and I fight like any married couple.  The hardest part of being married is figuring out how to live with our quirks and how to adjust to each other.  We are currently entering into a stage where we realize that we have different values on some things.  At the moment we are trying to figure out if we should hold tight to those values or compromise.  Does compromise automatically equal losing?  What do you think?

My grandmother always said that the happiest times she had with grandpa were the last 20 years of their marriage.  Because the fighting and the figuring out how to live together had already passed.  They had already lived most of their adult life with one another… so in retrospect there was no adjustment for the last 20 years.  The only way they would have had to adjust is if they got separated or divorced.  Know what I mean?

So I look on this first 5 years with my husband with happy memories and no regrets.  It’s not perfect… but nothing ever is.  Still… it’s my version of utopia.  My only hope for the future is that we continue to love one another and communicate to work through any rough patches we may have.  And of course realize that it is all worth it.